For all men & women, in Chester, Liverpool and the Wirral, who have found themselves letting go of their anger – we can help!
We talk a lot about anger and men, and for good reason. Men are more likely to struggle with anger issues than women, and I discuss the reasons in other articles on anger. However, that doesn’t mean women are completely immune. Women can need anger management classes too.
When it comes to anger and anger management women and men differ, but at the same time share much in common.
Because anger management for women gets so little attention, it’s no wonder there are questions about how to get a woman with anger problems the help she needs. Below is just such an inquiry from a man named Gabe regarding his girlfriend and my advice as to what next steps he should take to help her.
When The Woman You Love Needs Anger Management Classes
So much of the literature on anger management is about men. What about women?
Do women need anger management classes too? A growing number of men think that their wife or girlfriend needs help with anger management .
You can be sure this isn’t the only man who’s noticed a need for anger management in the woman he loves. At Beautiful Minds Talking Therapy we offer really practical help and advice for all forms of Anger Management in Chester and in Liverpool. We’ve worked with many women whose anger has gotten out of hand and who need help learning how to manage it.
However, the first step is always that your wife or girlfriend must accept and recognise it for themselves. Our recommendation would be that if she doesn’t recognize this about herself yet and is focused on you having the anger management problem, then just get the help for yourself. In the process of your changing there will be opportunities for her to see how she could make similar changes.
We also need to recognise that the causes of the anger for women can be different to men as can their expression of anger. Most women tend to be more emotionally in-tune than most men, and better able to understand, regulate, and discuss their feelings. Men typically haven’t learned how to do this. Because men are often less able to express complex feelings in a healthy manner, those stuffed emotions can manifest as anger and may be expressed through yelling, physical acts, or excessively controlling behaviors.
Women on the other hand, are often better able to express their feelings before anger bubbles over and avoid exploding and becoming as volatile with their anger. Most of the time, but not always. They may, however, more likely be triggered by:
- Feelings of inequality
- Being disregarded
- Taken for granted
- Socially snubbed
- Other more subtle occurrences
Their expression of anger can be subtle as well. Women often employ more passive-aggressive tactics, like the silent treatment, gossiping, emotional abuse or manipulation as methods of expressing their anger. Not as obviously damaging as punching a wall, but perhaps more detrimental in the long run. This is part of the reason anger in men gets more attention than does anger in women. It’s just usually more obvious and lacking control. Does this mean that women don’t yell, explode with anger, or become abusive? No. It’s just less the norm than in men.
So, when a woman needs anger management classes, she’ll need to find a counselor who understands the similarities and differences in anger between women and men. It’s not a one size fits all. And unfortunately, as a result, anger management classes for women can be harder to find.
Beautiful Minds – Talking Therapy Services, is designed to help you & your loved ones, explore, understand and resolve difficult issues and develop positive coping strategies and skills for self-healing.
Our Talking Therapy Counselling Sessions are ideal for Men & Women in Chester and Liverpool who need help with their Anger Management.
So if you’re looking for discreet counselling services in Liverpool or Chester, call us for a FREE 20-minute chat to see how we can help you:
Beautiful Minds-Talking Therapy
Liverpool Clinic: 88 Rodney Street, Liverpool. L1 9AR
Chester Clinic: 55 Hoole Road, Chester CH2 3NJ
Call Barry on: 07403 250051
(Blog courtesy of Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC, Oct 05, 2021 https://www.guystuffcounseling.com/counseling-men-blog